When You Should Say "No" To Giving A Eulogy

One of the key moments for those who gather at a funeral home to pay their respects is when one or more people eulogize the person who has recently passed away. The eulogy serves as an opportunity for the attendees to get to know the deceased person better, as well as understand the value of his or her relationship with the speaker. In some cases, you might be asked to deliver these important remarks after the passing of someone who was close to you. People typically accept the request, given the honor of being asked, but there are times that you'd be better off declining it. Here are some times that you shouldn't accept.

You've Had Some Problems With The Person

The family members of the deceased individual might not have a clear picture of the actual relationship between you and their loved one, which can mean that you could be asked to deliver the eulogy even if you had a recent falling out with the person. It's difficult to deliver thoughtful, loving words to the memory of someone with whom you had a strained relationship, even if it was only toward the end of the person's life. The last thing you want is for your words to come off an insincere, so it's a good idea to decline the request of giving the eulogy if you find yourself in this situation.

You Have A Public Speaking Phobia

Lots of people dislike the idea of public speaking but will put these feelings aside when they need to deliver a eulogy. If you feel that you have an extreme phobia of being in the spotlight in this manner, however, it's best to avoid giving the eulogy. Your visible nerves will make the speech uncomfortable for not only you, but also for those in attendance, which can take away from the intended job of eulogizing the recently deceased person.

You Won't Expect You Can Keep Your Composure

Tears are often shed during the eulogy, and a few minutes of a shaking voice and some moist eyes won't hinder the progress of your remarks. However, if you're a highly emotional person and firmly believe that you'll have trouble sharing your remarks — for example, you expect you'll completely break down and be unable to talk or finish the speech — you're better off declining the request. A breakdown of this nature can detract from the moment and end up being what people remember, rather than the words themselves.

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